The hardest growth I had to make was in overcoming my sense of male domination. I thought men were gods. But then I walked into the Western gender shitstorm with men behaving badly. That confused my sense of justice heavily. I felt my whole equilibrium was deeply upset by men behaving badly and not as gods or superheros. It was a huge part of the reason why I could not make sense of myself or other people. It’s taken me more than two decades to work through this and to rid myself of the cognitive framework of a very extreme christianity. By comparison doing one’s own shopping seems like a really easy fix for reversing gender domination.