To understand the psychology of the patriarchal mind one must delve deeply into patriarchal logic.
The first matter that comes to our attention is that the patriarch wishes to avoid being “influenced” by factors in life that he defines as “feminine”. If you are female, that means YOU.
By that biological fact alone you represent a threat to him, such that he will do anything — and I mean anything at all — to avoid an appearance of being influenced by you.
This explains the second feature of our patriarch: He isn’t really listening.
To understand the reason for this, go back to Matter One. To listen to you implies that he is making himself vulnerable to be influenced by you. That is the whole outcome that has to be avoided at all costs.
Thirdly, and because of his embrace of these two preceding predilections, the patriarchal mind has no idea of what you are talking about.
What you say literally doesn’t make any sense to him at all.
This is because he has taken care to shield himself from your ideas on the basis that they might be seen to “influence” him. Not understanding you at all puts him into an extremely vulnerable position with regard to you. He is quite jittery when you are around. He avoids direct contact, and tries to stage all public interactions to take place in formal contexts, where the “script” for the interaction is already decided.
The fourth direction in terms of the logic of the patriarch’s psychological development is toward trying to resolve this crisis of confidence he has created.
He concludes that what seems true (that he actually does not know you at all) cannot be so.
After all, it is he who is patriarch — the one defined by intellectual purity, by power and by truth.
Therefore, you must have been hiding your real self from him all along.
Why so? Well, obviously, because you have something nefarious about you that needs to be hidden.
In fact, it now seems that you are not just hiding something, but you are also withholding important information with the express purpose of making the patriarch feel jittery about his position.
(You are, indeed, the living embodiment of all the “influences” that the patriarch has refused to accept. You have become the manifestation of all the negative and disowned parts of his own mind. )
Solving the problem leads to the consolidation of the final term of patriarchal logic: “Either I am good and you are evil; or you are good and I am evil.”
On the basis of his previous choices, who do you think the patriarch will pick in order to represent the “good” over the “evil” forces?
Himself? Or you?