I write on patriarchy here with the implicit view that the patriarchy does not have a window on itself. If it did have, then it would not so easily be able to seduce so many into walking in lockstep with it! (My very slight apology for my mixing metaphors here, but I think this jumble and confusion also convey the tactics and strategies of patriarchal hegemony.) Patriarchy cannot appeal to human beings in general on the basis of logic or rationality, since its methods and practices are antisocial. One can see it in a very accurate light as an antisocial virus, or in Richard Dawkins’ term, a “meme”. Since it cannot appeal to reason, patriarchy must find various ways to perpetuate itself by appealing to aspects of unreason within human sensibilities. To do so it must cloak itself in darkness and pretend to be acting for the common good, whilst maintaining a sharp division between what it is in public and what it is in private. Like a cockroach, it must take care not to emerge into the light.
The signs that patriarchy doesn’t know itself are ample. The very schizoid nature of patriarchal thought leads to the inability of those who have succumbed to this meme to openly discuss what’s in their hearts and minds. Instead, we see a manner of combativeness that seems to indicate an animal attacking itself — as if it were an autoimmune disorder. What I see is that those women who associate (often unknowingly) with those afflicted by patriarchal thinking are always punished for it. The patriarchs themselves, it seems, don’t seem to realise that they are teaching women not to associate with them! More likely, though, they do not care. They are being attacked by an autoimmune disorder — they are itchy all over!
It amazes me how often my attempts to be conciliatory with an arch patriarch have led directly to what BF Skinner calls “extinction” of conciliatory behaviour. One learns not to do this, after a while: For a woman to be seen to willingly associate with any patriarch, to any extent, is seen by other patriarchs in the light of her conceding that she is of lowly value.
Simply put: If one wants to maintain that one values oneself immensely, the best thing to do is to keep as far away as possible from any patriarch, and anybody else who might be one, who is on the Right!